Okay, this might come as a shock but I found an article from the Elite Daily that was written by a man. After first observation, I think the lady articles were written with a tad more testosterone but c’iest la vie.
The article is entitled “A Gentleman’s Take on Why Women Should Never Settle for Less Than They Deserve”. I don’t know, man…something about a Hispanic man bragging about his own accent really sends me in a seething Hulk-rage. The article caught my eye during some research for another post and because I am a gentleman, I agree with that title statement. Ladies should never settle for less than they deserve. However, I think ladies should also be realistic in what they deserve and I highly doubt he mentions that. If you couldn’t tell I write as I read the articles so I am forming my opinion as I am reading the damn thing. Is it professional? No. Is it more intimate? I feel so.
I think this is a perfect post-Valentine’s Day follow-up to what Anthony wrote yesterday on his rom-com sad sack similarities. Alliteration aside, let us get to it.
The writer offers an opinion similar to the one I have been screaming at the top of my lungs for months. Girls are somehow shocked when they meet a gentleman. The author ask a perfect follow-up question: “Who the fuck are you ladies dating?” Of course he didn’t say it with the style and grace that I have, but his inquisition is just as valid as mine.
A hopeless romantic sounds pretty awful. Whoever does their marketing should be fired along with any publicist. I would have went with Hopeful Romantic or Believer in Love or Snuggle Bunny. Hopeless is such a terrible adjective, in any situation really. Hopeless comes hand in hand with helpless and desperate to form a Captain Planet of shame and desolation.
Ladies, a hopeless romantic will always treat you right. When you boil this post down to its most basic elements, that is the bottom line. A hopeless romantic is always trying to go out of his way for you. It’s a pity that this is the same man who is often cast into the shadowy abyss referred to as the “friend-zone.” This is because he is usually the one with a dry shoulder for teary eyes or a ride home to avoid a walk of shame in “fuck me” stilettos. He is also trying to not only out-do his friends but he is also competing with himself. He is constantly trying to impress you for no other reason then the fact that he loves you. Endlessly.
The author words this next part perfectly:
We know you are a grown, independent woman who can complete endless tasks without a man’s help. You can open your own doors, pay your own rent and put on your own coat — we know. But, we want to be the ones who make you smile nonstop; the ones who provide you with amazing, memorable experiences; the ones who completely change the way you perceive life
I would highly suggest dating a hopeless romantic after a shitty relationship. On the other side of the coin, I understand that it is tough to fall in love with them. They are always opening doors and trying to make you smile. It’s horrific. They actually talk to you before midnight and they say things other than “Let’s get a hotel room. I want a blow job.” They are so corny, right? I think one more example will make the sarcasm as clear as day. So, they are constantly listening and taking things you say and trying to comprehend them from your point of view like some sort of understanding boyfriend from your dreams. YUCK!
They don’t have that dangerous side in them. I call it the “Fonzi-side.” They usually don’t have a bad bone in their body. Nope, no penis joke here folks. Move right along. They are nothing but gooey marshmallow and butterfly kisses. Despite the sickening cuteness to a hopeless romantic, they do know how to mend a broken heart. When you are done being used and abused, try going on a date with someone who will give you those small, random surprises that make you smile while still keeping you on your toes. Some hopelessly romantic men are actually unpredictable. I know it sounds weird to say but they can surprise you with something that you have always wanted but never said out loud.
His article seems to come off as really self-serving because he keeps saying “we.” I don’t mind it, if he considers himself a hopeless romantic…more power to him. Maybe it is because he contradicts every stereotype that is associated with hopeless romantics. I’m not sure how many hopeless romantics are aggressive or unpredictable. I know some of them are, but they are stereotypes for a reason. Predictability comes with routine and humans are creatures of habit. If there is science to suggest otherwise, I’d love to check it out.
I also think that a hopeless romantic understands that love isn’t about what he is getting but rather what can he give. Face it, ladies. That’s what you want. A male that is going to give more than he expects in return. The best part about a hopeless romantic is that they aren’t just planning for a future but they plan for a future with you in it. They plan for an “us” or “we” future not just the “me” future.
Well, to close things out…date a hopeless romantic. Don’t settle for a good-looking asshole or a schleppy nice boy. You will not die alone if you hold out. It might take longer to find that perfect, special someone but it will happen eventually. Have patience and know your self-worth because you deserve better than what you have been doing to yourself.