It’s bad enough that there are a people that call themselves “foodies.” Then, I constantly have to see people on social networking that share pictures of their food on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram. People started making fun of these people and they still haven’t stopped. Has high school bullying taught these nerds anything?
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Apparently there is a dating website for these foodies. It’s called HiDine. Yeah, for reals. There is a foodie-dating social network. I really hope anyone who I know that shows me what their breakfast looks like switches over to this site and then all of their computers murder them. I pray that this site takes off and includes people in relationships and foreveralones as well as people looking for love so I never have to look at what you are eating again.
So HiDine’s motto is “Chivalry IS alive” and now they are receiving some backlash for being sexist. This Huff Po article suggests that what HiDine is promising women that they will be matched up with “benevolent and presumably wealthy men who will pay the bill.” In that article, the HuffPo writer suggests is that this is just a fancy way to say “sugar daddy” or “candy man” or “pimp” (pick you slimy creature of choice).
This is the counter argument as to why men shouldn’t always have to pay for first dates:
At HiDine, we believe in old-fashioned chivalry. Men pay for first dates. You spend enough time and money on clothes, shoes, hair styling, and beauty products. Before you even sit down at the table with a guy, you have made an investment in the date in order to look your best. Any guy should appreciate that. And the last thing you should worry about is who is going to pick up the bill.
I completely understand that. I really do and I’m not arguing for women to pay the bills because I am being lazy. I just feel like this implies a weird type of sexism towards the women who “care” about their date. It also implies that men do not care about what is happening in their love life. Speaking from experience, I know I would get my car detailed and washed before every first date. I would also get a hair cut if I needed one. Not to mention all of the daily activities like going to the gym, stellar hygiene and keeping my pimp hand strong. All of that requires time and money but according to this website, it is either non-existent or nothing to care about.
I have mentioned it before that I feel like men who are always paying for everything indirectly put pressure on the female in the sex department. I’m glad that I finally found someone (Huff Po writer) else who agrees with me. I feel like the men who constantly grab the bill before a female even checks to see how much she would owe, are very sexist. It is basically telling this woman that she wouldn’t be able to afford food without your controlling and self-righteous borderline manipulative character defects.
However, it is considered chivalrous and courteous for a man to treat a lady to a first date. I always pay the tab when I have the money. No matter what date it is. Why? Because I want to show my date that I care enough to pay for things. I know I can show this in other ways but if I never paid for anything, I think she would assume that I was a lazy leech.
This does work against me, though. There are feminists out there and I have actually dated a few. A true feminist wouldn’t allow this shit on her watch. This would make her feel “less than” or like she owes something in return to me and that isn’t fair to her. These feelings would be totally understandable. If these feelings do arrive, I simply let her pay that time and will pick up the next bill. It really isn’t that big of a deal to me. Definitely nothing to stress out over.
Moving away from the sexism, the HuffPo uses the terms “transactional and antiquated” which I had to google. After I taught myself new words, I figured out that this meant that the website is basically promoting Sugar Daddies. These men actually have to put a deposit down to “show commitment.” YUCK. This is the complete opposite of what my website is designed to send out to the world. Sugar Daddies are the worst thing to hit the Society of Love since AIDs.
What is a sugar daddy, you ask? It’s a money for sex/love relationship. Simple as that. Sex becomes tender. It’s not really legal per se, but there are tons of loopholes that come from these lying liar-pants.
What happens when a girl gets a sugar daddy? They get amazing things and become super flamboyant. This makes other girls jealous of their stuff. In turn, this makes those other girls want to go out and get a sugar daddy. This is terrible because in the end, you have hundreds of girls who are dead inside from trying to improve their living conditions all the while not realizing that they are nothing but a prostitute. Meanwhile, hardworking middle class men cannot find a female for the life of them because these girls are used to a certain lifestyle and do not want to change that. The girls are unhappy. The hardworking and financially unstable men are unhappy. The families of the sugar daddy are unhappy. This situation does not work out. All of this stems from men picking up the bill after dinner. DO YOU SEE?
I would never get mad at a woman for trying to improve her living condition by any means necessary. I also would never get mad at a man for paying for sex. However, my website is not dedicated to getting sex. Sex is easy, love is hard. Deep down, I think everyone wants love. I just think a lot of people do not believe in such a concept and that is because they haven’t found the person to make them want to believe…yet…