Did that just blow your minds out the back of your face? I know that every time I try to have a serious conversation about chivalry it usually turns into an old timey sexual harassment demonstration on what not to do. Basically like whenever you have a serious talk about racism, one guy will look over his shoulder and start spitting out really hacky, played out black-jokes that I’ve heard a million times and never laughed at once.
I think the term “chivalry” has become a parody of itself. No one believes that it exists, so why would anyone take it seriously? I don’t take Santa Claus seriously. I don’t take Chloe Kardashian seriously. That shit isn’t real to me. I understand why people do it, however the idea of being chivalrous is just horribly misunderstood; not imaginary.
- Chivalry isn’t really dead, I just think it’s definition has shifted or morphed into something completely different from what it really was. People think chivalry is holding doors open and goofy shit like that. That’s just called being courteous. There are whole chapters missing from today’s definition of that overused, misdefined word.
Chivalry was a code of ethics created for knighthood associated with the medieval times. It originated in the French heavy cavalry, thus the nomenclature. Chivalry involves not only the courtesy side but bravery, courage, knightly service to others (protect those who need it or can’t protect themselves), honor, honesty and courtly love (expressing admiration in a noble fashion).
There was a strong sense of discipline in knights. I find it one of the most fascinating eras in history. Like the Samurai, knights had a very strong sense of spirituality. According to Wikipedia (Fuck you, I’m not in college), there were 10 commandments to the code of chivalry: 1. Believe the Church’s teachings and observe all the Church’s directions. 2. Defend the Church. 3. Respect and defend all weaknesses. 4. Love your country. 6. Show no mercy to the Infidel. Do not hesitate to make war with them. 7. Perform all your feudal duties as long as they do not conflict with the laws of God. 8. Never lie or go back on one’s word. 9. Be generous to everyone. 10. Always and everywhere be right and good against evil and injustice.
That’s weird? I don’t see anything about opening doors or picking up a fucking check. Not even one mention of women. I do like the thing about respect weaknesses, though. Respecting weaknesses is being self aware which can turn into a strength.
Maybe that’s where women come in? Do women consider themselves weak? Is that why they want chivalry to come back? How did that get started?
I do like everything that chivalry is about and I do try to practice it in my every day life. Well, these days. My past is like anyone’s past when they are consciously trying to be a better person. It was dark and awful. Thanks for reminding me that I was a bad person, Tom. You snarky dickhead.
I even like to do the new version of chivalry. Opening doors, picking up checks, protecting women when they need it, etc. I think that is all solid. Fuck cops, though. However, I like the other stuff better. I like how chivalry is all about self-honesty, service to others, bravery and personal morality/spirituality. That’s what I think we need to revive as a society. Not just as men.
Now before I wrap this up. I need to speak up on why this isn’t relevant in society anymore to relate it to this blog. I guess I don’t have to, but where is the challenge in that? I think one reason it isn’t around anymore is that females let it happen. Well, that is partly the reason. Girls let guys underperform in the generosity department for so long and that it became the standard. Girls have to whip the dudes into shape and let them know that shit won’t be tolerated. I might be blowing up some dudes’ spot but they probably wear Ed Hardy clothes and ADIDAS cologne jerking off using spare hair gel as lubricant.
There are other issues, however, that make chivalry an awfully rough code to root for. For example, the women who think that when guys go over the top they become creepy, pathetic, obsessive or trying to hard. Those women need to be shot out of a cannon pointed at a brick wall. They’re usually smoking hot and know it. They get everything handed to them and when a guy tries to stand out amongst 10,000 other guys they are considered creepy or pathetic. I feel sorry for dudes who shoot for girls like that. It’s like the kid who gets his parents to do their science project but gets an F anyway.
WHY WERE YOU SO DUMB DAD?!?
That situation also has another variable. Girls have a tolerance level to guys and their pick up attempts. After they are bought flowers, flowers no longer have the same effect. It’s like drinking. When you are 12 and you drink for the first time, 3 beers get you drunk. After a few years, flowers do not get you drunk. God, I am bad at analogies. You know what I am saying, yes?
Also, with the tolerance level comes a feeling of ungratefulness. And this is how the corgi ties in with the article. If a guy holds a door open and the girl doesn’t say “thank you” or acts like she doesn’t appreciate it, then in our head she doesn’t value the fact that we tried to do something nice. Therefor, we don’t have to do something nice. Do you follow that logic? If not, know that every guy does.
So to close this thing out, if chivalry were to come back…would you even notice?
via con dios,
(p.s. For a woman’s take on chivalry. Actually, a great read and pretty funny.)
(p.p.s. I don’t know why the text changed around but I’m entirely too lazy to force this post to cooperate. Deal with it and I apologize if you only come here for my superior coding skills.)