Pardon the interruption of this dating blog with some random suggestions.
Okay, well I just sent my blood pressure through the roof hating that writer. I need to relax. I think we both need to relax. How does one do that? There are many ways. Sometimes, going to the gym and just lifting weights and running your ass off will get rid of that negative energy. Other times you might feel like you shouldn’t have to exert energy (energy you might not have) to feel relaxed. It’s possible to be stressed and exhausted at the same time. This is a problem I find I am always trying to solve.
Well, for me personally, I found some awesome techniques about relaxation in a book called The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying. It’s all about Tibetan Buddhism. I find theology super interesting and tend to be a spiritual fiend. I can’t get enough. You might not be like this. That’s okay. In reality, we are just talking about relaxing and meditating. Not God. I just like to read all theories so I can make informed decisions about my own spirituality.
What I’m going to do is teach you to meditate. Hopefully, it will work. It will be a guided meditation of sorts. The only requirement is an open mind and 15 minutes of free time. The above music video will also help for the beginners or people just willing to try something new.
I know this all sounds weird, but just follow me for a minute.
They say Buddhists need 3 things to achieve Enlightenment. 1. The skillful motivation. 2. The attitude of non-grasping that secures the practice and 3. The dedication that seals it. “To accomplish complete enlightenment, more than this is not necessary; but less than this is incomplete.” Nahhh mean, son?
What the list and quote suggest is that you will need 3 things. Motivation to start, an attitude of letting go and dedication to chase it. That’s it. Those are some simple fucking keys to the universe, no? Those are also known as The Heart, The Eye and The Life Force for true practice.
Meditating is really just a supreme awareness of yourself and your surroundings. “Peacefully remaining” or “Calmly abiding” or a sense of mindfulness. Some people feel that praying is talking to God while meditating is listening to Him. Take your pick of it’s true meaning. I like to think it is all of that.
The first thing we need to work on is the posture. You don’t have to go into Full Lotus Position if you can’t do it. Just sit “Indian-style” on the floor with your back straight and your eyes closed.
Wait, how are you going to read the rest of the article?
Okay, don’t start yet. Just remember that’s what you are supposed to do because the next part is what I found to be one of the most life-changing experiences that I have ever had. Not to mention it is simple in nature and just something that we overlook as human beings.
Second, control you breathing. Slow it down. Deep inhales and exhales. Concentrate on the exhaling. Exhaust yourself of your breath. Become aware of the tiny space between a full exhale and the next inhale. THAT is what you want to focus on. The space between your breaths. Rest there. Prolong it by refusing to inhale. Your body will naturally inhale when it is ready. Breathing is natural. You can’t stop it, however when you are stressed it messes with your breathing. It is now time to re-focus your breathing to it’s natural, rhythmic state.
If you are advanced, maybe try a chant: oh ah hum vajra guru padma siddhi hum is the chant that has helped me. Give it a shot. If not giggle at it. I don’t care.
Step 3: It’s time to learn about our thought process. To properly meditate you need to allow thoughts and emotions to come and go as they please. Like waves in an ocean. The ocean is not disturbed by waves and waves return to the ocean after they run their course. Thus is the relationship between the mind and it’s thoughts/emotions/feelings/etc. They make up the mind, flow through the mind and return to the mind when they are finished.
Now what I mean by “bringing the mind back home” is find a “center” or “base” for your mind. Personally, I use the beach. A calm beach with waves crashing on the shoreline. I like running water. Sometimes I use a serene and hidden lake with a powerful waterfall. I like rain, the shower, waves, rivers, waterfalls. You know, gay shit like that.
Okay, after you have found your home you are ready. The picture that you have in your head as the peaceful spot where you wished you actually could meditate is now called “home.” Bring your mind back home whenever your mind decides to stray off course. Have a thought. Feel a feeling. Do it. Don’t let them control you. However, when they have run their course, take the mind back home. Take a deep breath. Focus on the breathing again. Go back to neutral. Re-align yourself. DO NOT grasp onto those feelings or thoughts. That is how you will prolong negative emotions like anger or fear. That is the complete opposite of what we are looking to do here.
This is what the Buddhists mean when they say “Letting go is the path to freedom.” I believe that statement is NOT literally about possessions, yet about our own mind. Once you let go of the jealousy, envy, fear, anger and sadness then and only then can you be truly happy. This is what I define as “Rigpa” (or the knowledge of knowledge itself as it has been described to me).
Also, don’t have crazy thoughts and then start thinking “Oh man, my mind is fucked up. How did I get from trying to meditate to thinking about snarky lizards and dishwashing bricklayers?” Just forget that you even thought that weird shit and bring your mind back home. Other thoughts are just merely distractions to what you are trying to accomplish.
Now what was the music video for? First, it is by Sigur Ros the Icelandic post-rock band. Honestly, I think it is plainly beautiful. If you can’t look at that and relax and just smile than your soul is dead. If you don’t have the 6 and a half minutes to watch that full video, your life is too busy or you have ADHD. Regardless, much bigger problems than learning to meditate.
I know when I first heard that song I nostalgic flashbacks of my own childhood. All the happiest moments in my life. I cleared my mind and just listened to the music and pictured happy moments. It was that simple. Don’t try to listen to the words, they are in another language. Don’t judge the rhythms. Just let it be background noise to your meditation.
Okay, to wrap this up…
- Sit down, with your back straight and legs folded.
- Slow your breathing down to a normal, natural pace.
- Turn on the above music video of Sigur Ros- Track 3
- Close your eyes.
- “Bring your mind back home.”
- Feel your emotions and think your thoughts. Then let them go.
- Bring the mind back home when you start getting off course.
- Proceed for as long as you would like (I suggest 20 minutes tops)
And here are some quotes from The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying:
What you are is what you have been. What you will be is what you do now. If you want to know your past life, look into your present condition; if you want to know your future life, look at your present actions.
Whatever joy there is in this world, all comes from desiring others to be happy. And whatever suffering there is in this world, all comes from desiring myself to be happy.
Negative action have one good quality, it can be purified.
Via Con Dios,